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Can I Stop My Kids From Fighting After I Die?

On Behalf of | Apr 2, 2018 | Estate Planning |

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You may already be aware that the death of a relative can bring out raw emotions in most people. Some may withdraw or prefer to remember their loved ones in solitude. Others might let negative emotions take hold, including anger or entitlement. You and other Minnesota residents may want to keep your loved ones from fighting over your estate after your death.

Probate court is part of the normal process of a will. However, probate also comes into play if family members disagree over the terms of a will. Someone may have been disinherited or feel like he or she was slighted. A relative who cared for you in your final years may feel like he or she deserves more than an equal share of the assets. Your children and grandchildren may be confused over which heirlooms they were meant to have or might disagree over who gets what.

You may help your relatives preserve peace within the family in the following ways:

  • Be sure that you state each point of your will clearly and simply. Try not to make your loved ones guess at your wishes.
  • If you cut someone out of your will or leave an unequal amount, you will want to explain your reasons clearly.
  • Consider leaving your children an equal share instead of leaving some more than others. Regardless of their financial circumstances, they may regard an unequal amount as favoritism, which could lead to hurt feelings and a rift in the family.
  • Give away some items, such as treasured heirlooms, to your relatives while you are still alive, so you can see them enjoy the gifts.
  • Hold a meeting so your family members can provide their input in front of each other.

Nobody wants their family to be torn apart, either before or after their passing. When you carefully plan your will, you may help your loved ones avoid much of the drama.